Parenting, Families and the Government
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Believe it or not - sex often results in pregnancy
Men and women come together all over the world every day and make a decision to engage in consensual sex. It takes two. Whether these two people are married or not is not the determining factor of whether children will be the result.
Men and women marry and have children and often decide they do not wish to live together any longer after the children are born. This results all too often in the pair of adults acting very much like children themselves where they are not able to take into account what is best for the children.
Now the fun begins. Lawyers are hired and things get ugly. The child more often than not is given into the sole custody of one parent (mostly the mothers) and the other parent (mostly the dads) begins a life time of paying child support.
Please do not misunderstand me; I strongly agree that child support is essential and that the parent without custody pay that support. I do see some very unjust things happening though, and it troubles me.
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Government Intervention or Interference
This hub is being written to address one of those issues that I have recently been made aware of. I would like to note the way things happen in our governmental system and how things are dealt with when a family splits.
Take a normal family with the mother and the father who actually do stay together and raise their children. In many cases both parents work because it generally takes two incomes to keep things together. Even with both parents working in the middle class family, it is difficult - if not impossible - to put aside money for RESPs for their children. If that happens, those children will be required to work their way through college or university - most often supplementing their earnings with OSAP or other types of student loans.
To date, I have not heard of the government stepping in and demanding that the parents of the children who stay together and raise their family together pay for their children's higher education. If the parents decide to do so, it is their decision, and often they will be required to go further into debt to do so. My point is, it is their decision. They are not being dictated to by the government that they must do so. I cannot imagine the uproar that would and should take place were that to happen.
So I have to ask myself why the government feels it is their right to make it obligatory for children of separated parents to pay 1/3 each for the children of that union for their continued education? Why are we not up in arms about that? Why do we allow the government to interfere in these situations to the point where undue hardships are forced on one or the other parent? Should the children of separated parents receive this added benefit BECAUSE the parents are not together? Something here just rings unjust to me, and I don’t understand.
I don’t know the statistics but separation, divorce, and extended families seem to be the “norm” in our current society. If that is the case, then there are a great many children being raised by only one of their natural parents. It’s disconcerting to realize that the government is allowed to make these decisions for such a large portion of the population.
One would hope, by the time these children are ready for college or university, that they are adults, so the argument that the government is looking out for the best interest of the “child” is a mote point.
If you are a single parent, please let me say that I am not pointing a finger in your direction at all. I am fortunate to be happily married for 30 years and we have managed to raise our children without this type of government interference, but when I hear about it I cannot help but be concerned.
Is it just me or does anyone else see this as something to be concerned about?
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Other Conversations
I have come back to add to this hub because I have found some interesting conversations on this topic throughout HubPages. If you are involved in this type of situation or similar ones, you might find these either useful or interesting.
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I don't know how it got started. It seems that the family is being undermined at every opportunity. At least to my way of thinking.
A very fine article. Thank you. I am working on a Hub about father's rights so I won't say much more other than: our government hurts marriage and families with their policies.
I agree, and not just this type of policy. Even in the way the taxes are set up (at least in Canada), we are encouraged not to marry.
I look forward to reading your hub!
Thanks for stopping by
I can only speak for how things are in the U.S., but child support here is only required until the child reaches the age of 18, or if he/she is still in high school on the 18th birthday, c.s. must be paid until graduation. There's no requirement that the absent parent pay for higher education, which would seem quite unfair to all.
Well, in this case I have to say the U.S. is ahead of Canada. I was truly amazed when I learned that this is happening here. As I was being told this story by a friend, I just kept shaking my head in confusion. I'm not sure how this ever came to be but I agree, it seems highly unfair to all. Thus the Hub.
Thanks for stopping by and clarifying that the US does not follow this same insane policy.
Family structures and values are weakening on a daily basis.
Witness. You are 100% correct, but then I think that has been true for many more years than we know about.
Thank you........ I am a NCP abrivation for (non custodial parent)that spends more time with my children than the CP (custodial parent) and pay my child support the full amount no modification because on how important it is for me to dues says CP because the I need my children as much as I need them and chose to due so.... and i will gladly give them all my checks and much moreformy children but draw the line god nows we need one .....and the day we give them that right to chose what we will and will not do we are done so keep writing
Alexcarlos, please forgive me for not responding to your comment. I'm not sure what made me come here to check out an old hub today, but I'm glad I did, so that I can rectify this shameful oversight.
I'm not a politian by any stretch of the imagination, but I certainly had to bring this to light after hearing about it.
You are so right! We need to be able to draw the line somewhere, somehow.
I wish you the best with your children!
Smireles Level 1 Commenter 2 years ago
It sounds like the government is offering a benefit to children of single parents. At some point one must wonder if this is an attack on the family as a whole. Again, we see that people who try to do the right thing are penalized by the government. How did this get started?